How to respond to the anger of the child?
Between 18 months and 4 years, it is normal that children react with anger to denial and frustration are inevitable in life everyday. It is therefore teach the child to better control his anger and to reduce the consequences. In anger, it is useless to try to reason with the child, it is better to put away in a safe environment for him to calm himself alone for several minutes. Do not succumb to the anger of the child. In fact, buy peace in the immediate causes of anger unfortunately more frequent and more intense. It is preferable to react firmly and keep calm. It is useless to get angry even stronger than the child. Remember that children take on such a parent to learn how to manage his anger. When the child has finally subsided, the parent must remind him that he can come back and try to reassure him, because the child may actually think that anger means we no longer loves. It should then tell him he has the right to feel and express anger, but it is forbidden to destroy objects or hurt others when we are angry. If it ever happens, we must teach children how to fix his mistake.
In order to prevent anger, it is appropriate to negotiate on some aspects while being firm on the basic rules. For example, we may say: “I understand you want a candy. It looks very good. Another time thou shalt have.” By cons, we do not negotiate the ban put their fingers in sockets. If your child continues to make very intense anger, take the trouble to ask you whether it calls into question your parental authority. Who really leads in your family?
How should we intervene in conflicts between brothers and sisters?
We must first know that the rivalry between brothers and sisters is quite normal, since every child wants to share parental love and wishes to have time for love alone. He must reassure each child on the special love that he bears his father and mother. The parent should avoid being in the position of judge in a conflict, especially when it is not witnessed the scene. Violence, physical aggression and insults should be banned. Children must learn to find adequate solutions to their disagreements.
Until 5-6 years, the parent accompanies the child in conflict resolution to teach them to communicate better. Later, children will find their own solutions to their conflicts. To promote solidarity and cooperation between them, do not encourage children to relate to all parents, to denounce each other. The collective consequences remain an appropriate way to end some unacceptable behavior.
Living with family or have brothers and sisters implies that we must learn respect for others. Some family rules prohibit as to search the belongings of other foster harmony.
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Thanks for the good tips here! I have been struggling knowing how to parent my child who is often angry. I really like your thoughts about negotiation.